Ruined Lives (part two)

Then He said to them all, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me.” Luke 9:23 In other words, the Christian life is going to be one of self-denial in many forms. We wake up every day and decide to say “no” to our flesh. We decide to say “no” to worrying about our needs. We decide to be concerned about others above ourselves. And every day we
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Ruined Lives (part one)

But what does it look like? That’s the question we keep coming back to. Last night Jacob and I watched a sermon podcast that ruined us. There have only been a handful of those in our lives and this was one of them. Listen to it. You should probably stop reading this blog and listen to it right now. If you didn’t do that and you’re still reading this, then the joke is on you because I’m just going to tell you what Dav
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Beauty

For as long as there has been women on this earth, there has been a quest for beauty. Every heart of every women hopes to be breath-taking and throughout the centuries we have let the world tell us what that is supposed to look like. It might be easy to look back on the atrocities women have committed in the name of beauty and think that we have come so far, but the truth is that it’s always just the same goal
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The monkeys are coming

“The monkeys are coming!” This is my daughter’s way of beginning a game where all you do is sit under a blanket and talk about how scared you are of the monkeys who are coming. I couldn’t tell you how it began, or why the bad guys are monkeys, but this is a staple activity in our home. I like it because really its just cuddling under covers with my two year old. Lately though, Lily has been getting herself worked up
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Prideful Humility

My kids are in the “wait a second” stage. Man I hate that stage. It’s the I’m-not disobeying-because-I-am-cleaning-my-room-even-though-I’m-only-picking-up-one-toy-every-five-minutes stage. A friend witnessed one of these forms of “obedience” the other day and taught me a little saying she learned from a book. She tells her kids that they need to obey “right away, all the way, with a happy heart.” Anything that does n
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Suffering Well

To live is to be a sufferer. Because long ago two people made the decision to place their hope in what was hopeless, we all live in fallenness. As centuries pass by and the story of what happened gets lost we all begin to wonder why the world is so full of hurt and pain. Evil emerged on that day and has had it’s foot in humanities door ever since. So what we all know (but don’t want to admit) is that if you have been
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Having Parented

If it seems like I am stuck on the hardships of being a mom, it’s because I am. As much as I would love to move on from the subject both in writing and in daily life, it seems as though I will be here for a while. I say that mostly based on the fact that my children are three and two and I can’t kick them out for at least fifteen more years. Fifteen more years!  Do I sound overwhelmed? I find comfort in the fact that
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Winsome

I’ve never been one to shy away from conflict. I tend to say what I think with little to no hesitation. I am blunt and straight forward and my approach has been less than tactful from time to time. I spent quiet a few years believing that the only criteria for what we say should be whether or not it’s true. Ephesians 4:29 gives a different set of criteria. “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only su
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Forgiving Isn’t Ignoring

I think one of the hardest struggles of any Christian marriage is trying to decide which battles are worth choosing and which aren’t. I want to be a loving and forgiving wife, which can sometimes mean that I just try to silently “get over” something. I know that the thing Jacob said is only hurtful to me because I am being overly sensitive so rather than bring it up, I push it down. Proverbs 19:11 says that a sensibl
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